July 30, 2008

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  Men from Mars:Women from Venus

  I havent had a bad day at work for awhile, and I knew it would arrive someday when my luck runs out. For the past year, the job has been treating me well already, what more do I expect? However, for the past month, it seemed my luck has declined dramatically and it all started when my boss turned into a dramatic pycho moron, course he kinda got promoted.

  You would think my manager would be estatic about his promotion, but he is a loser!!!so Frank's anxierty tripled and he let all that pressure out on me. Letting it out means calling my name every 15mins, repeating questions over and over again; asking me to call people chasing for answers and dont allow them time to investigate, correcting my emails when his english is 1000 times worse, asking me to draft emails, describing what he wants in cantonese, then when i am done, he tells me i am not really asking what he wants me to ask (i feel like saying, why dont you just write the damn email yourself?!). Honestly, I dont see myself as the best farking employee, but I had never felt so degraded and demotivated before, its like he questions your performance on every single task, not trusting me to do the simpliest thing since he even double checks if i had send out an urgent mail. Hey, if you are really that worried about my performace, why dont you just tell me? Dont patronise me!! I feel he needs to confront his issues and stop treating me like a primary school kid.

  So last night, got off work around 7, had the worse farking day, with a headahce, I walked slowly to MTR station to meet R. When we were both on the train, R finally asked me why I look so grim, so i briefly told him what i just wrote above, note, it was not even that detailed! After hearing the whole story, he started compiling a detail action plan to what i should do tomorrow, basically, telling me to arrange a meeting with Frank, discuss the issues, letting him know whats bothering me etc etc.. he said, the best way to solve this, is really talking to him like a professional, he adds, there is no point Venting over things, the only way is to resolve it.

  By then, my head was hurting 10 times more, I kind of knew he was going to tell me something similar: fix the problem, move forward, stop crying like a baby. Honestly, why do MEN always want to FIX things. Women just wants someone there to listen, they just want a few words of comfort and telling them everything is ok. Hey, I know nothing is really ok after hearing that, but then I just know my head wouldnt hurt like hell, and that I don't have to think about the issue right now (actually I just really want to procrasinate FOREVER on the issue !!!). The last thing i want to do is to talk to Frank, i just want to HIT him.

  Of course, i do appreciate him, he is always trying to help me, and I am so glad I have someone to take care of me like that, but sometimes, women just prefer venting and not really fixing the problem. I am so glad I have my girlfriends for situations like this, they dont help you fix the problem, they just agree with you and also tells you what a loser Frank is! Although, their harsh comments on Frank doesnt make Frank a better manager, but it sure helped me with my headache and I can hear myself laughing again.

   

   

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